(Thanks, Dena, for "Sandra, I think you mean December 31, instead of January."
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Sandra:Wednesday October 15, two hours beginning:Heather, I'm sorry we didn't get to your question on words last week.Heather:
I forgot to bring it up. Could you describe what would help you with
your project?One of the things that helped when I started unschooling was becomingSandra Dodd:
aware of the words I used. The clearer I became in my thoughts and the
more aware of the impact of my words, the better I was at being an
unschooling parent. I want to discuss with my group the power of
words. "Read a little, try a little, wait a while, watch" and "Say yes
more" are great phrases to get you going in the right direction but if
you are still saying "have to" or "junk food " or "screen time" then
you're stuck in negative thoughts.
Let’s make a list of words and phrases that hinder unschooling – and a
list of alternatives phrases or thoughts. If we have time at the end
let's end on a high note and make a list of words that help.Okay!
I want to talk about illogical phrases, then, if there's time. Sometimes something sounds good but makes no sense. It's good for people to be on the lookout for those, too. :-)
As to who "deserves" to be treated how and who is "sacrificing," those terms can do damage. If you "deserve" something, where do you appeal to make sure you get it? If you have "sacrificed…" what are you sacrificing?That made me think of Heather Booths' request to discuss words (and it might've come up last week, but last week's chat got going and didn't pause, after a while).
Where were you before (intellectually, emotionally, philosophically)? Where are you now? Where might you be next year, or in five years?Ideas for reading might be the TV pages or about food, if you don't have other ideas. There are two pages where I collect people's tales of personal change: